men are scared of marriage

Why some men are scared of marriage

A friend of mine did a beautiful analysis at the condition of present world’s system with respect to decline in the number of marriages. It was a follow up to a discourse about why some women would remain unmarried even if they really want to get married. So I decided to do this article to explain my position about why many men are scared of marriage in a country like Nigeria.

Men are scared of marriage. Even in countries with great economies, rich men don’t want to get married because they fear their wives could ask for half their property when/if they divorce.

In Nigeria, the cost is too high and men are just comfortable doing it “solo” or having “baby mamas.” The fact that my religious inclination disapproves of that doesn’t make it an issue for me to be silent about. We might think all issues will be solved if we are “delivered” from a kind of demonic oppression through many night vigils and all, but checking the statistics, this appears to have a cause. And when something has a cause and the cause is known, then the solution should be proffered.

men are scared of marriage

The number of wedding keeps declining, men are not really bothered about it especially the ones that are not restricted by any moral stance. But it’s unfair on the part of the ladies because even if they want to “play” it appears to be a thing of joy for them to have a “crown” on their head. I don’t know if that gives them a feeling of satisfaction.

But I think the issue is so paramount to women that some don’t even mind spending their money on the guy just to get him to marry them. Some are financially stable, but just looking for a husband. Can anyone just enlighten me on why it is so important for the ladies?!

While you are at that, it might interest you to know that men are gradually losing interest in marriage because of the financial implications and that is why we have more single ladies these days.

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It’s like Isaiah foresaw the issue of finance deterring men from getting into marriage that he said a time is coming and “In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!”” (Isaiah 4:1)

Is this prophecy coming to fulfillment?

Other than finance, what else could be responsible for men shying away from taking that walk down the aisle? Tell me.


Ayobami Ogedengbe 

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One comment

  1. Very insightful post Ayobami Ogedengbe. However, i’ve also discovered about 5 other reasons why men are scared of marriage.

    Truth is, today some men don’t even know they are scared of marriage, they are ignorant of this and most ladies still find it hard to believe most men are scared of marriage. They think it’s only them that are scared when it comes to settling down.

    It was an amazing discovery when i discovered this and i thank God i’m not the only one noticing it.

    Thumps up bro. I enjoyed your article.

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