A newly published book on relationships which is titled Dear Miss, Dear Mister by leadership and personal development expert Patson Dzamara is set to redefine the dynamics of courtship and marriage.
The book, which was launched at a colourful ceremony in Zimbabwe recently, heralds a new dimension that can be adopted by youths and other single people in navigating their way through relationships.
Interestingly, Dzamara is not yet married, yet those who deal with issues around relationships and marriage have commended the book for its in-depth approach in tackling critical relationship issues.
Dzamara, for one so young, has an amazing work rate and has been churning out books at every turn. Dear Miss, Dear Mister — which was edited by journalist and NAMA award-winning author Phillip Chidavaenzi — is his sixth book following Finish What You Start, Dimensional Leadership, The Anatomy of Process, The Development Matrix and The Winning Team.
Judging from the statistics on divorce, broken families and unwanted pregnancies on the global scale, there was and there is still an urgent need for people to come back to the drawing board and reconsider the current approaches being adopted towards marital issues.
At the moment, it is disturbing to note that worldwide, there is undeniable glaring evidence pointing to the failure by the traditional moral-building channels to promote and inspire people into engaging in positive life transforming love encounters.
This dismal failure which results in uninformed relationships is surprisingly spreading across the globe regardless of the fact that love and marital issues are interconnected with the wellbeing of many other institutions in almost every sphere of human life.
As such, this book comes in as a long-awaited antidote to the society’s ailing and crumbling courtship processes and marital structures.
This book, written by a youthful person for a predominantly youthful readership, also acts as an SOS to elders in society so that they can re-engage themselves as custodians of moral values that are associated with the creation of formidable family institutions.
The book’s publication also shows that a neglected generation can take it upon itself to redefine its future when the elders and responsible authorities seemingly dump it because of their obsession with politics, power and money among other selfish interests.
Since time immemorial, parents as well as social and religious authorities have inherently and traditionally been responsible for making sure that the youth enter into informed relationships that result in stable marriages and progressive families.
Unfortunately, the prevailing uninformed and ungrounded relationships mean that society now needs to quickly wake up and understand that failing and troubled marriage institutions threaten the existence of a harmonious and progressive generation in the long run.
Based on such an understanding, there is therefore a great vacuum that needs to be filled with literature of this depth and magnitude when it comes to relationships.
The advantage of coming upwith books such as Dear Miss, Dear Mister at such a critical moment as this one is that they can be easily accessible through bookshops, libraries and marriage centres in order to expose current and prospective lovebirds to critical love issues.
Generally, the interconnectedness of courtship, marriage and societal well-being is evidenced by the fact that quite often,diverse kinds of people including business executives, politicians, celebrities and everyone else are all in one way or the other a product of a love encounter.
This holds true regardless of whether this association or relationship culminates into a marriage or not.
As such, Dzamara demonstrates the way how people enter into and manage their relationships needs care, attention and commitment from the lovebirds themselves and from the society around them as well.
However, unfortunately, the issue of courtship and marriage have become an endangered societal practice because of the failure by societal authorities to give this important aspect of human life the critical attention it duly deserves.
This book is sentimental in more ways than one, having been published at a time when Dzamara’s brother, journalist-cum-human rights campaigner, Itai, has been missing for over a month. The massive turnout at the launch probably indicated the support the Dzamara family has received during these trying times.