Sometimes we can get carried away with life and get swept up in the day to day, going from to A to B without a blink of an eye. We have our routines and we stick to them and as a result, we can become passengers of our lives, instead of being in the driver’s seat. More unfortunately, this happens often with our partners. We tend to lose focus at that time when we should really be working to improve our relationships.
In the very beginning, we are so amped about our partner, we show them our affection each and every way. We send sweet lovey-dovey text messages, we leave little love notes in between their books, and we even take a sexy selfie or two.
And then life happens, reality hits us, and the initial ‘gra-gra’ stage fades. Our sweet text messages are now far and between. And those love notes we once left, are now replaced with longings that are hardly satisfied. This trend of trying a little less as your relationship grows occurs in most relationships and is totally normal. However, just because it might be common doesn’t mean that we have to settle for it.
So, here’s to putting in a little more effort into your relationship today. Here’s to letting your partner know you care by your actions. Here’s to stopping to smell the roses in your relationship, and maybe giving them as well. Here are seven ways to improve your relationship.
1. Compliment your partner
2. Think positively about your significant other
It all starts with your own thoughts. If you wake up in the morning and have a couple of negative feelings about your partner, you’ve already woken up on the wrong side of the relationship bed. Negative feelings may come from some bad attitudes displayed by your partner. If they are toxic for your relationship, the proper thing to do is to talk about it and find a way to end the attitude. If the attitude cannot be worked upon by your partner, the proper thing is to end the relationship. But if your partner is not giving you problems, and you just can’t seem to explain why you are having a negative feeling about them, then you need to cause a cosmic shift in your feelings. You have to think positive to act positive. Therefore, start the day off by thinking of your 3 favorite attributes of your mate. This positivity will shine through you the whole day, and your partner will be sure to feel it and it will improve your relationship.
4. Do something nice or special
Doing something nice for your partner without any intention of getting something in return can be quite wonderful. It doesn’t have to be a holiday for you to buy a thoughtful gift for your boo. Writing your love a sweet card letting him or her know how much you care is worth way more than it costs. Surprise your significant other by doing something nice and you will see how nice it will make your relationship feel.
5. Communicate – Ask for what you want!
One way to improve your relationship is to communicate your wants and needs. It’s crucial that you are being heard in your relationship, partnership, or marriage. First, it begins with you speaking up. If there is something you feel that you are not getting from your mate, ask for it. Whether it is more affection, more privacy, or more sex, speak your piece and have your peace.
6. Live in the past
I know people say you should live in the present moment, but sometimes you got to let the past have its time to shine. Talking about fond memories can bond you to together and make you feel those same feelings once again. You could even take it one step further and relive one of your first dates together. In this instance, don’t leave the past in the past. It works magic, try it out today!
7. Change it all up!
This one is majorly for married folks. Change can do us some good. This applies to bedroom activities as well. Put the spiciness into your sex game. Sex isn’t the only part of a relationship, but it’s a huge component of maintaining intimacy and connection. Sometimes all you need is a good lay with your mate to bring you two back to feeling close again. So test out a new position with your partner, or try out a fantasy that he or she has always wanted. Have fun with it! I’m sure you will be moving a notch higher to improve your relationship.