Did I hear you say you are single, lonely, bored and unhappy? Well, it is high time you changed that status. It’s time to enjoy your status as single and feel proud of it. Let’s show you how to enjoy being single.
Contrary to what most ‘doubled up’ people might make you believe, being single can be fun and could be one of the best times of your life. Do you know that there are plenty of things that you can do as a single but which committed individuals can not? First, let’s read from this celebrity who bares her thoughts on how to enjoy being single.
Over the weekend, Nigerian singer, Chidinma Ekile ‘spiritually’ described the status of being unmarried to be profitable as it gives one much time to maintain intimacy with God and his worship. In her exact words on Instagram:
Some of you do not understand the benefits of being single, while you’re not married, you ought to be involved with God. At 5am you can lie in bed and pray in the spirit, you can lie on the floor and worship, you can lie in the bath, praising and worshipping for as long as you want.”
“The Lord wants you to come home at the end of the day and say ‘Lord, I went through so much today, I couldn’t wait to get home to worship you, I’m glad you’re here’. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be married, just take care of the Lord while you’re waiting, minister to Him and worship Him. You’re in a position and posture of prayer. The Lord has become your necessary food.”
“There is a special relationship between God and the single believer. God has a special anointing for the woman who is free to seek Him. Her prayer life should explode in miracles”
That’s Chidinma’s view from a spiritual view. Let’s examine some physical advantages that would make you enjoy being single.
More time to spend with friends and family.
Being into a relationship takes a lot of your time and commitment. It becomes very hard at times, to put up with the pressure of spending quality time with your family, friends and your lover. This is a problem that all your committed friends will experience. Aren’t you glad to be single?
Being single is more economical.
Going out for dates and getting your loved one gifts is expensive. As if birthdays and anniversaries weren’t enough, now we have occasions such as Valentines day to dig this huge irreparable hole into your pockets. When you are single, your expenses are so much lesser. You can now afford to spend on no one but yourself and anyone you are just willing to share happy moments with…not the FORCEFUL obligation you owe your lover.
Being single means more freedom.
Being single,you are not answerable to anyone. You don’t have to please anybody but yourself, neither do you have to make silly excuses to watch a football match/fashion channel nor to spend an evening gossiping with your friends. You can do all that you want to do, without having to ask the opinion of your partner.
Singles get more opportunities.
Now a lot of us may tackle me hard on this, but we are trying to face some glaring realities here. There are plenty of fishes in the sea, so why get stuck with just one? The fact that you are single, gives you the chance of fishing for greater opportunities. Please take note, I didn’t say you have to taste them all, I only said it gives you options to choose from till you are completely ready to stay committed to the BEST ONE.
Singles get more space.
You can breathe in peace. Sometimes it feels great to spend time with yourself. It helps you to ponder over your life and think better. When you are in a relationship, this is not always possible. Which is why you should really enjoy being single.
Singles do not suffer heart-breaks.
Since you are not in love with anyone (yet), there is obviously no risk of facing a painful relationship heartbreak.
Singles can concentrate on their career and goals.
When you are single, you can completely focus on your career with no one to distract you. The result being, you have a greater chance of being more successful in a few years down the lane. This is not to say being in a relationship stops you from being successful; but being single might help you focus better.
Singles carry no emotional baggage.
As a single person, you don’t have anyone throwing emotional tantrums on you that wear you down. You can do what you want to do without getting anyone emotionally hurt.
Singles don’t have to make compromises.
Whether it is to tolerate your boyfriend’s snoring or carrying your girlfriend’s shopping bags; you don’t have to go through any of it. You are single and very much have the freedom to accept what is pleasing and reject something that is not.
Singles have spontaneity.
You can afford to be spontaneous, make and reject plans at the last minute without having to worry about someone getting angry with you. You are the sole ruler of your life. And your judgment is the final verdict in your life.
I may have stepped on toes with the points above. Forgive me, but I’m only helping you see how you can enjoy being single and not DESPERATELY trying to get out of it. Keep calm, enjoy the moment, take your time to find a good partner for you (with the help of God o’course) and you will enjoy a good, long lasting relationship; instead of jumping from one partner to the other in the name of ‘I can’t bear being single’
You have every right to contest my points, after all we learn everyday.
I look forward to your comments.