Today’s vox-pop session, as anchored by the indefatigable Olubunmi Mabel is quite a funny one, but it is one of many issues faced in relationships. Many choose to be silent about it, but we should salute the bravery shown by this fellow to find corrections to issues in his relationship. We are counting on you to share your opinion and advice on this.
I’ve known Tolu for seven months. We met in the bank, and we hit it off like we’ve known each other for years. After three months of friendship, I asked her out, and it’s been a great time with her, until when I started observing her voracious appetite.
It still beats me how a skinny lady can conveniently and shamelessly consume four big wraps of fufu, while I struggle to finish two!
She mounts her food like Kilimanjaro, and brings it down to a valley. I’m afraid to take her to my family, relatives, and friends for fear of being embarrassed.
When I called her attention to it, she snapped, “why should I starve myself when I’m hungry? Why should I pretend that I’m full, when I’m not? Please o.”
Really, I can’t pretend that I’m not irritated. She keeps swallowing all the food, yet, remains as skinny as a broomstick. Makes me wonder what she does with it all.
I love her, but her voracious appetite disgusts me. What do I do?”
These are the words of Ben. Help him ooooo.
Amiife Mhiz: Ben, you should be happy she loves eating rather than not wanting to eat. Some people are her exact opposite.. Meanwhile, I understand that bulimia is a disorder. If you leave her now because she has bulimia (not HIV, not cancer) etc, then I am afraid you don’t love her. What you can do is don’t take her out to eateries, tell her not to eat in functions, let her see a psychotherapist. I wish you guys best of luck
Zee Ibrahim: I don’t think she has Bulimia like Amiife said. Bulimia is s serious eating disorder marked by binging, followed by methods to avoid weight gain. He did not say she is binge eating and purging or doing things to vomit. So by not taking her out will fix the problem and telling her not to eat outside… Smh!! My dear, sometimes people’s appetite can be very high depending on the person’s metabolism. Yes she is binge eating, it might be for many reasons. Emotional stress, depression and or anxiety can make some people binge eat. Is she doing lots of exercise or has a job that requires extensive physical duties. It’s hard not to get irritated, however that won’t fix the problem. You have to talk about it calmly. You can’t be judgmental about this, it takes you to empathizing with her to get her to open up to you. Have her speak to a counselor and please this has nothing to do with visiting a pastor for prayers. This is a psychological (medical) problem. It needs practical solution. Not some spiritual fix.. Good luck!!
Opayinka Odebunmi: OMG! Ben, please let me meet her since you are not happy with her appetite, I love ladies that can eat. They are overly strong and healthy. Ogbeni, better hold on to your lady. If it is the public whatever that you can’t cope with, bring the food home. I wish Olubunmi Mabel and Dee Last Born can have that kind of appetite.
Nwemeh George Ebenezer: Some guys are just fond of laying emphasis on things that doesn’t matter. Medically, ladies like that might end up becoming fat. Personally, I love it when someone feeds well, I get angry at ladies who don’t feed well. Let the guy find his way and let someone who will love her that way take over. I’m irritated by this.
Na crime to eat again?
Rotimi Oluwasodimu: Some people can be irritated because they believe every one should be the same. It might not be a disorder like some earlier comments. It might be as a result of her body chemistry. She ain’t fat so that makes her wanna eat more. It’s logical and as we know slim people eat more because they don’t have much fat(energy stores). Everyone has a blemish. He can discuss with her and help her come to the consciousness of restraint especially when among people but he should appreciate her for who she is. She’s a woman who can eat. There’s nothing abnormal in that. She will outgrow it. They always do.
Emmalianzy Ayobami: Like Seriously?? My future WIFE would do more on me….I EAT LIKE…I CAN FINISH 5 CUPS OF RICE AT A SITTING…IF YOU ARE DOUBTING ME TAKE OUT ON A DATE OR INVITE ME TO YOUR HOUSE!….Mr. Ben,just accept that because you said you love her….FOR LOVE SAKE…JUST GO ON WITH YOUR PLANS OF TAKING HER TO YOUR FAMILY…AM SURE AM MORE THINNER THAN HER…SHE CANT EVEN COMPETE WITH ME, JUST BE COURAGEOUS AND GO ON.
Temitope Olusoji: SMH!!! Of all things to complain about! Is it that whenever she eats, she does it carelessly? Does she eat like an imbecile? Are you scared she would consume the monthly house stock in a week hence running you into debt? Does she eat like baba suwe and co.? Isn’t she civilized? Cos me I don’t understand ooo. Oga Ben, abeg park well jwor. If you want someone who will be too scared to enjoy life because she loves you, just move on. It’s best you let go now. Not being harsh, just frank. If you can’t cope with an eating habit, you won’t survive if she has a disease or post-birth body changes and more. Save her the trouble abeg.
Vivien Adaeze: mtcheeeeeeeeew!!! Arrant Nahsense. You see a girl with a great appetite unlike the ones that pick on their food and rushes off to induce a vomit. You want her pretending abi. You guys have issues walahi..She eats a lot…You complain..She doesn’t eat…. you complain.. What exactly do you want?
Ajibade Enitan: Really, Food could also be an issue ooo, yeah, i think our comportment while eating matters a lot especially in public. One could eat in a way that looks embarrassing whether one is a voracious eater or not. Well, the lady in question might not be able to limit the amount of food she consumes but her comportment will do the trick. Ben need not worry as it is a situation that can be managed only if the lady sees it as such but if she refuses to yield to adjustments then, I’d advise Ben to say goodbye to that relationship because little stuffs like this are like termites capable of destroying marriage itself. Let’s consider this: What if Ben decides to wave this minute issue aside then they get married but Ben refuses to take her out to functions or whatever for the fear of being embarrassed. The lady wouldn’t like such and it becomes an issue. Gradually, their marriage loses its taste. Men are not loners jare, Ben finds a companion and the rest is history. Lets not blame Ben. There are petty stuffs we detest too. If the guy isn’t comfortable with the lady, let him sign out.
Let’s sign of with this.
Bosun Banjoko: She should be tested for intestinal worms. It is unusual for a Lady to eat like a Mechanic.
Over to you, what do you say?