For most people in a serious relationship, the destination is to get married to their partner. The precursor to marriage in most (ideal) cases is the proposal – this is what signals the intent of the man to spend the rest of his life with his woman. Most women look forward to this event – the proposal – and for some of them, they like it to happen in a memorable way. This then raises the question about public or private proposals, which works for different individuals?
One of the most common dilemmas that come with marriage proposals is where they will take place. Some people prefer intimate, quiet moments, while others really crave something loud, flashy, presence of friends and in a public setting.
So, we are asking; which do you really prefer between public or private proposals? But before you answer, let’s take a closer look at both terms.
Doing a “private” proposal means that you and your spouse-to-be are the only people present. This does not necessarily mean you have to remain inside the comfort of your own home: the question can be effectively “popped” in a secluded area, during a picnic that’s just both of you, or even in a parked car on the side of the road. The keyword for this type of proposal is simplicity – the main focus will be on the words and memories included.
If you’re not big on public displays of affection, do not like being the center of attention, prefer that your engagement remains a secret for a certain amount of time, you don’t want someone documenting your proposal without your knowledge (pictures, YouTube videos, etc.), or your partner prefers these points, then you should go for a private proposal
In this type of proposal, you’ll be incorporating others in some way or another; whether it’s family members/friends, or planning for an audience of some sort. Examples include, but are not limited to, utilizing an opportune moment at an event, choreographing a musical number that includes backup performers, or even getting on bended knee in the midst of a crowded area, or a park. The point here is to make your love known and to stick to the “go big or go home” mentality.
This kind of proposal is perfect for you if you’d like friends and/or family members to be incorporated into the moment in some way, you’re a theatrical person with a flair for public displays of affection, looking forward to the thrill of seeing your proposal video online, or your significant other prefers these points.
Now, here’s where it gets tricky…
For a number of people, they really can’t decide if they want a public or private proposal, but they want a proposal nonetheless. Best option for such people might be to incorporate both: propose privately, party publicly! Immediately following your intimate moment, you can plan a small party that includes friends and family – who will bring their fair share of video cameras for any speeches (if you want) that may be made throughout the event! If you do not want any media coverage, you can include that in your invitation note as well.
Now to you readers. Having understood some of these information provided above, which would work better for you; private or public proposals? Hold on a minute still…We got our friend, Olubukola Ozone to help conduct this survey on his social media page, and we were able to gather some interesting responses.
Please read below.
Sekemi Doukedein said – Honestly, Nay. I know people get the mushy mushy feeling but when I deeply think about it, I realise that for us to get to that stage where he proposes with a ring, we should have talked about marriage before then or at least both know that it’s ending in marriage. With that in mind, I don’t see the need for the surprise proposal outside. I’d rather just have him pop the ring after a very nice meal at his or mine.
Oni Oluwafunmilayo Ayobami said – No oooo… I don’t even understand why they even cry!
Oladapo Testimony Victoria Yetunde said – If I am being proposed to in public….. Yay!
Ofungwu Jonathan Arinze said – Emphasis on public? Absolutely Nay. Aside from the fact I risk being publicly embarrassed, and the possibility of not getting a genuine response cos she’s trying to save face in public. I’d rather go private for 2 reason; to save myself the possibility of a huge public embarrassment and to save her from feeling ambushed and not deny her freedom to give a genuine response.
Osakuade Ayobami said – Being proposed to in public 📢? Nay hmhm, Rara…. He’s not even sure if I’ll say yes sef.
Deborah Iwunna said – With family members yaaay!
Folake Ailara Olaoye said – Nay! We are not shooting a movie!
Awe Babajide Dunmininu said – Before proposal, I expect that you must have understood each other. Also from jokes in your relationship, you should be able to ascertain if your spouse likes the public or private proposal.
Orinami Risafe Favoured said – I love it when I see one and I imagine my own fairy tale story too but sincerely, I don’t know if I will like one for now because I’m a shy person. But at the same time I don’t like a hidden love life. So, until then…
Ogunoye Adewumi said – Both Yay and Nay. Depending on type of public.
Olutayo Abiola said – For me, nay. I don’t fancy putting those kind of things on display. I could awww at someone else’s public proposal but it’s not my thing.
Maudlyn Adaeze Ifada said – I’m okay with any. Be it stadium, super market, eatery, mall, in a bar, in my house, in his house, in presence of family members, in a cool spot alone, on the bridge, in the beach, on the rail I can go on and on, anywhere is fine with me, just pop d question along with the ring Mr man, shikena. Let me be your wife already 😂😂😂 That’s my style biko.
Fayemi Tunmise Bella said – I won’t be able to decline in public if need be… But private is fine.