Today, we revisit our mails, and we had to feature this mail we got from a friend all the way from Oklahoma City. She wants our sincere advise on how to deal with her lazy boyfriend whom she loves and doesn’t want to lose. This might seem non-African in context, but we beg you not to mind, focus instead on the plight of this woman. We will appreciate a kind advice from you on the necessary step this lady should take. She will be reading this, and every word said will go a long way in helping her make a decision.
Please read her story below, and give her a proper advice on how to deal with her lazy boyfriend.
I feel like I’m in a relationship with a man-child. He has never contributed to anything – ever!
I’ve been in a relationship for three years and have two children – the two are from a previous relationship, I am planning to have more children with my current boyfriend.
My problem is, I feel like I’m in a relationship with a man-child. He has never contributed to anything – ever! We haven’t dated for so long, so I guess we have never had that time to really get to know each other.
He also favours our unborn kids over my elder children, who he says are naughty and don’t listen to him. They’re not any naughtier than any other kids of the same age – they’re just normal!
He does very little around the house and if I do ask him to do something he sulks and says I treat him like child. I even pay him to take the kids to school, as I don’t have the time – and I pay for everything else as well.
I love him but I can’t handle the fact he does nothing. He plays computer games or watches telly most of the day. I try so hard to keep us together for the kids. My two kids got so attached to my last partner but that relationship failed miserably and the kids suffered a lot. I don’t want a repeat, I care about my kids, I care about my boyfriend, whom I will be marrying soon.
What do you advise I do?
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