A lot of people today set down standard rules for their prospective spouse even before meeting them, or before tying the knot. These days, you are likely to hear people say things like ‘My wife must not call me Daddy’, ‘My hubby must always come home before 8pm’, bla bla. The use of the kitchen also happens to be one of the more frequent issues they envisage and which they set rules for.
Young ladies are now keeping a special eye for guys who can cook. Young men are also not considering any lady who can’t cook for marriage. It would seem these days that cooking has become an essential part of what guarantees a level of happiness in marriage, and it gets me thinking what the fate of people like me who don’t frequent the kitchen would be.
Sometimes last year, I stumbled upon an article which I saved but somehow forgot to take a mental note of its author. The piece is a personal testimony of a couple who have formed the bonds of love beyond culinary skill of either or both of them. The testimony, in my opinion, should help us de-emphasize on super kitchen skills and rather emphasize on togetherness in the kitchen. After I read the piece, I knew I had to share, and also knew I had to start learning more about cooking, so I can have an opportunity to make the kitchen a lovely place to be in my home; with my wife.
I will credit the owner of the article as anonymous. Please pardon me. If you know the owner of the article, kindly contact me, so I can properly credit it to him. Thank you.
Enjoy the piece below:
When it comes to cooking in the house, my wife and I have always cooked together. The kitchen has now become a place where we can connect, work as a team, laugh at each other and enjoy the food even more because the result was achieved together.
I truly believe that it has played a huge role in strengthening our marriage. It is pretty much the same as anything in life, how do you feel doing all the great work and your partner just sits around all the time enjoying the benefits of it? Things are always more meaningful when done together, it shows how strong you are a a single unit.
Now there are times where she wants to treat me and make a meal by herself, there are times where I want to treat her and cook by myself, that is just our way of giving each other a little break. However never have we assumed that just because I was the husband and she was the wife that specific duties fell on each other.
It’s the same way my wife believes that the financial support of the house shouldn’t completely fall on my just because I’m a man. It’s a team effort all the way and we are both responsible for the growth and success of home, the lives of our children, and each other. I love it, it opens so many doors of opportunity when you know that someone is there to support, and it doesn’t matter if that’s in place you work, or in the kitchen.
When my wife and I were getting married I don’t even remember cooking or food coming up in any of the conversations, because it doesn’t matter, at all. A successful marriage doesn’t take place in the kitchen, but in each other’s lives, it isn’t started by asking a young lady what they like to cook, or asking them what they would like to eat, and it isn’t built on a stomachs full of food, but on a hearts filled with love.