Help this fellow with your kind advice, blunt or not, only you are not allowed to judge. Just your candid advice. Thank you.
I am in steady relationship and we are expecting our first child in five months, although we are unmarried. My fiancées parents are putting pressure on us to formalize our relationships. However, I have a son with this other lady that I really love. We have had a relationship for more than five years now. I love both ladies and want to marry them both but I don’t know what the law says about marrying two women at the same time. I have to act soon especially from pressure from my fiancée’s parents who are demanding a church wedding. Please advise on what I can do to marry both women. I don’t want to lose any-or rather, none of them will allow me to proceed with the other.
The first question is: why get into another relationship despite the fact that you were in a long term relationship? You are chasing two birds with one stone and they are in different trees at different times. You are too young to think of marrying two women so choose one. Also bear in mind that not all relationships end in marriage. Think this over before you act. First, confirm that the unborn child is indeed yours.
In this situation, you have to be very wise and honest with all parties and let them know the truth. This should include both sets of parents and they may provide some solutions to your problem. Share with them that you have this other woman and wait to see who stays by your side.
Take your time before you act on your presumed decision and consult with elders on the pros and cons of sustaining two women. Bear in mind that we are living in harsh economic times so think twice before deciding on your future. Marriage is a lifetime commitment not a laughing matter.
Tell all these parties that you need some time. Do not marry out of pressure. Think twice before you are completely consumed in this.
Need I remind you that you can’t marry two women at the same time?
Up to you readers, what’s your advice?