There are friends, and there are lovers, there is a third group – the zones! This is one of the coldest and coziest place to be in a person’s life, depends on how you see it. I choose to see it this way and you are about to find out why Friend zone is bae.
Let’s begin by ‘attempting’ to define friend zone. I used inverted commas for the word ‘attempting’ because it is not an easy task to define friend zone – it comes to everyone differently and either motivates you or makes you bitter.
If you are trying to be happy, please do not go with Urban Dictionary‘s definition of the word which is “the position you attain after failing to impress the woman you are attracted to” Now, this is sad! Going further, the dictionary further calls it “the worst position a person can find himself when he has feelings for another person”.
Here is the good news according to Wikipedia. “The friend zone, in popular culture, refers to a platonic relationship wherein one person wishes to enter into a romantic relationship, while the other does not. If a desired party does not return or respond affirmatively to the advances or affection of the desiring party, but continues to participate in the friendship in a platonic way, it is sometimes described as friend-zoning.” If you ask me, this is a subtler definition that kinda gives you hope because it lets you believe the zone is a temporary situation.
Now here is my personal definition – please insert a smile on your face as you read this – Friendzone is that esteemed position of consultancy, mentoring, and brotherly love that a person you really like bestows upon you!
Just imagine that for a second!
You are more than a friend, you are a respected friend held in high esteem. Your opinion is highly valued and will be sought from time to time and you should be very happy to always help out, shouldn’t you? Lol.
Now look at this one. You get to be a mentor. You can share your valuable experiences with that person you really love which will always leave them better than when they came to you and keep them coming back for more. You also get to spend quality time with them. Whoop! Whoop!
The most important part is that you get to be seen as a brother/sister. This means you get all the insider info about what is going on in that person’s relationship! I consider this the masterstroke because if you get smarter by the day, you can exploit all the insider info you get and can keep churning out those lovely advice and mentoring tips, you just might convince them to look your way (especially if the main lover is messing up).
It’s not such a bad thing to be zoned afterall. For me, it is where the word BAE originally came from.
BAE according to pop culture is ‘Before Anyone Else’ and that includes their lover; it means you come first!
Friend zone is a respected title reserved for special people who display a lot of friendly qualities, wisdom and unconditional love! (Did I mention that a person in the friend zone keeps loving even when they don’t get it back?)
On a final note, the ultimate advantage of being in a friend zone is that you get to be considered first when that loved person is ready to get really serious…and probably get married.
We are often being told to ‘marry our friend’. So, tell me, who else should any sane and ‘ready to be serious’ person marry, if not that wonderful friend who has been faithful in the ‘zone’ all those years?
Are you grinning right now? You must be in a friend zone! Tighten your grip please, don’t give up just yet. Hehehehe.
I’m just trying to make light issues of things that bother us in life and relationships. I remain SILICON.
Thanks for reading my serious unseriousness.