I almost fell for the “First of all…introduction” trap. However, my will-to had no choice but to succumb to my will-not-to. The months leading up to the wedding are lined with a lot of fun and emotional events. One of such is the Introduction ceremony, which is usually held after the proposal.
Don’t we all just long for those days when life was simpler, when Introduction Ceremonies were nothing more than they are actually supposed to be – a living room gathering of the intending couple’s close family members. It used to be as simple as I am Mr Lagbaja, I am Mrs Tamedu.
Now? Oh my! There’s just too much going on – aso-ebi, canopies, loads of friends and acquaintances, cutting of cake – with Introductions Mini-traditional weddings, so much so it leaves you wondering if you’re at the right venue.
The Introduction ceremony is a formal meeting between both families of the bride and groom-to-be. Basically, it is held with the aim of both families getting to know one another better. The intending groom comes with KEY members of his family (often with a few close friends) to formally make his intention of marrying their daughter known to KEY members of his soon-to-be-wife’s family. Of course, they do not come empty handed: It is customary to come bearing gifts, nothing over the top though. Some of these gift items (fruit, wine, honey) are symbolic.
A typical Nigerian wedding introduction ceremony is often laced with playful banters, traditional music, and excessively frequent money dropping. In some cases, the dates of the Traditional and Church/Nikkai weddings are set at the Introduction. However, this is not compulsory as the dates may be set at a later day.
I certainly wouldn’t end this article without dropping a tip you could work with, and here it is: Regardless of the size of your introduction – living room setting or street blocking, I believe the photographer, make-up artist, and sometimes the caterers, are essential vendors to have on ground. Coincidentally, their services are also needed for almost all wedding related events-the Introduction, pre-wedding shoot, bridal shower, traditional and Church wedding or Nikkai ceremony. A little money saver tip is to book these vendors for all of the events that will make up the entirety of your wedding. This means, booking your photographer to cover your introduction, pre-wedding shoot, bridal shower e.t.c. Asides the fact that it is most times cheaper, it also gives the vendors the opportunity to get used to that particular client and know what works best for them before the actual day of the wedding.
For the love of Introduction, keep it simple and memorable.
– Tolulope Ademoroti
Tolulope Ademoroti is the director of Jéájoplan Events, an events management outfit that caters to designing and coordinating notable events. She is a graduate of Obafemi Awolowo University, who has insane love for her siblings, chocolates and dodo. Follow her on Instagram @jeajo_plan or mail her at email@example.com
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