I decided to pen this after I woke up this morning feeling so alive and thinking about my lovely and beautiful girlfriend whom I have been dating for 6 months now. There is indeed no doubt that she is the one and I want to make her my wife but like every other young man in his late 20’s my heart beat skipped the very first time she spoke the words – BUY ME AN ENGAGEMENT RING!
Why not? I mean I like her enough to put a ring on it abi? The song ‘Single Ladies‘ by Beyonce kept playing in my head for days until I decided to finally do it and the reality played a different song. Now in reality, this phenomenon is not peculiar to my girl alone, even though most girls do not say it in that tone, they find a maneuvering way of passing the message. But the tin be say these days, economy hard! Many men neva ready to settle ooo. To marry, you need money and pepper neva rest. Engagement is the last thing on our minds. But that’s not where I am going to.
Let’s assume that your man bought the engagement ring and puts it on you in a glamorous style; in essence, he engages you. The question you should ask yourself however is have you engaged him? Have you even engaged his heart sef?
In my own opinion, I think the man should also be bought an engagement ring or that the man and the woman wears no ring at all. The goal then should be engagement in their hearts and not on their fingers.
Women are not commodities you place a mark on in a large market to indicate that its been sold. Some women don’t even know this and they still prefer to be marked like yams instead.
I am speaking on behalf of the single and ready to marry ladies that will be able to think from this perspective and will not allow pressure cloud their reasoning especially at this marriageable age which your parents and friends have made you become. Studies have shown that 15% of engaged girl do not marry the engaged guy, this figure will continue to rise and as the level of economic stringency continue to soar, and you may wear that ring for months and even throw it away someday and move to the next man.
Some of these girls may be advised by friends and even their moms to take in for this guy and commit him to another level of engagement. This tactics to a large extent has worked and studies again have shown that men feel blackmailed and thus 17% of these cases that ends up in marriage do not have a happy home.
Now the advice is before you blindly accept that ring which may not even be worthwhile, think about how many months you want to wear it before he walks you down the aisle. You may also decide to engage him too at least you feel a little bit safe that way and please do not show off to your friends on social media or even at the office – you don’t have to impress your friends with that ring, unless off course its diamonds (winks). You have to be careful until he says I do even after the marriage sef, (smiles). As for those that gets pregnant to catch him, well that one na story for another day.
Have a great day.
Nwazuosa Nkem Kennedy
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