beauty is not in the eyes of the beholder

BEAUTY Is NOT In The Eyes Of The Beholder!

You often hear that Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, of course I want to agree, but what if it is just a farce, and beauty is NOT in the eye of the beholder?

Beauty is one of the most mind-boggling subjects ever. Every day we are confronted with the true meaning of Beauty. What is beauty? Who is beautiful?

“The woman” is mostly the lab rat used to identify with the exact connotation of the word. Still it is confusing as to what kind of woman – her looks, her personality, her acumen and tendencies – that can be described as beautiful.

More than anything else, the world pays too much attention to the physical attributes of the female gender. To this effect women who do not fit into the stereotype form of what the world perceives beauty to be become very timid and vulnerable in a world that makes her feel her buttocks has to be bigger and her breasts larger for her to achieve or attain societal acceptance as beautiful.

beauty is not in the eyes of the beholder

I have seen young women suffer this “ailment” of relying on the society to define their beauty. And if they never get the approval from society, they spend most of their lives living below their capabilities.

When we think of beauty, we think of fairer skin, straight hair, proportionate feminine features… If we rely on the description of beauty from the eyes of society, we will remain doubtful of ourselves because there will always be women and/or men more beautiful than we are.

I see beauty as the point of grace between hurt and healing. That is where beauty resides – in the middle of reconciling with our past, accepting our present, and forging towards our tomorrow.

Beauty is the tranquillity that rests inside of you when a colleague speaks ill of you…when another driver in traffic spits venom…when your partner acts inappropriately…when you receive the worst kind of treatment from people – it is that peace inside of us that makes us beautiful, the peace that does not respond violently or reacts similarly to what is expected. That peace that surpasses all of life’s ugliness.

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So as the week progresses and you are faced with difficult situations, do not let the chaos around you define you. Let the
peace that keeps you still guide you.

You are beautiful – always! No one has the right to define your beauty for you. The world will learn to accept you just the way you present yourself. So, let everyone around you realize today, that you are the most beautiful creature God ever created.

Finally, it is NOT about your FACIAL LOOK, NOT about your BODY, its about what you carry inside of YOU.
To everyone looking for a beautiful partner, you had better start re evaluating your idea of what true beauty is about.


Olabisi Vanessa


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  1. Beautifully written. We often times look outside ourselves to make us feel beautiful. Things to make us feel complete, beautiful and worthy. Why? The media bombards us with ads wanting us to buy their product, make us more beautiful, make us feel like we are whole and worthy. It could be past conditioning of what our parents, friends and teachers told us. It’s not until we find that love and acceptance within ourselves that we can heal our wounds. We are all beautiful it’s just our own fear based thoughts that tell ourselves that we are not enough. When we can begin to accept our true beauty within each and everyone of us the world will see it too. Live & love. xo, Fancy

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